58. It’s Not Just You
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- Transcript
Humans like to think that when we’re going through IT that we’re all alone and that we’re the first person to ever experience IT. But that’s simply not true, buddy!
About It's Going to Be OK
If you have anxiety, depression or any sense of the world around you, you know that not *everything* is going to be okay. In fact, many things aren’t okay and never will be!
But instead of falling into the pit of despair, we’re bringing you a little OK for your day. Every weekday, we’ll bring you one okay thing to help you start, end or endure your day with the opposite of a doom scroll.
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INTRO MUSIC
Pain can be a lonely thing. Grief is SO lonely. Because even when you’re surrounded by a bunch of people who care about you – and I hope you are – it feels like it’s just you.
It’s not just you.
It’s not!
Whatever you are going through right now. Whatever you have been through. Whatever your brain is telling you. That you’re the only person who is lonely, or hurting, or messing up again and again and again.
It’s not just you.
With very few exceptions, all of them being fictional people who I haven’t met or encountered in real life, everyone has felt that way. Everyone will, eventually, feel that way.
100 years ago people felt that very same way. People went through those very same things.
In another 100 years, they still will.
People don’t change all that much.
We have always had our feelings hurt by hurtful things. We have always tended to believe the worst is yet to come. We have always been looking over our shoulder to see how other people are doing and believing they are doing it better. They have it better. They are better. We have always lost people we love. We have always loved people anyway.
We have always had to walk through this world with vulnerable little bodies that are prone to breaking, and soft brains that are prone to breaking down. We have always had hearts, the most breakable thing of all.
What I know about pain and grief is this: it will not always feel this way.
That’s not to say that someday it won’t hurt at all, but just that it will hurt…differently.
It will not always feel like you’ve swallowed a carving knife.
It will not always feel like you’re trapped behind a pane of glass, watching the world go by.
Some days it will feel worse.
Sorry! That was the wrong thing to say for this podcast! But it will. Some days it will feel worse.
And some days it will feel lighter, less hot to the touch. Some days that pain will be more of a friendly ache.
Right now, it feels how it feels. And if it feels like it is just you…look up. Look around. Peek out of your window until you see another human being go by. That friend you’re next to right now. That stranger just passing by. The most annoying person you’ve ever met in your entire life??? Even they know what it’s like to hurt.
It is not…it has never been…never will be…just you.
OUTRO MUSIC
CREDITS
Humans like to think that when we’re going through IT that we’re all alone and that we’re the first person to ever experience IT. But that’s simply not true, buddy!
About It's Going to Be OK
If you have anxiety, depression or any sense of the world around you, you know that not *everything* is going to be okay. In fact, many things aren’t okay and never will be!
But instead of falling into the pit of despair, we’re bringing you a little OK for your day. Every weekday, we’ll bring you one okay thing to help you start, end or endure your day with the opposite of a doom scroll.
Find Nora’s weekly newsletter here! Also, check out Nora on YouTube.
Share your OK thing at 502-388-6529 or by emailing a note or voice memo to [email protected]. Start your message with “I’m (name) and it’s going to be okay.”
“It’s Going To Be OK” is brought to you by The Hartford. The Hartford is a leading insurance provider that connects people and technology for better employee benefits. Learn more at www.thehartford.com/benefits.
The IGTBO team is Nora McInerny, Claire McInerny, Marcel Malekebu, Amanda Romani and Grace Barry.
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Transcripts may not appear in their final version and are subject to change.
INTRO MUSIC
Pain can be a lonely thing. Grief is SO lonely. Because even when you’re surrounded by a bunch of people who care about you – and I hope you are – it feels like it’s just you.
It’s not just you.
It’s not!
Whatever you are going through right now. Whatever you have been through. Whatever your brain is telling you. That you’re the only person who is lonely, or hurting, or messing up again and again and again.
It’s not just you.
With very few exceptions, all of them being fictional people who I haven’t met or encountered in real life, everyone has felt that way. Everyone will, eventually, feel that way.
100 years ago people felt that very same way. People went through those very same things.
In another 100 years, they still will.
People don’t change all that much.
We have always had our feelings hurt by hurtful things. We have always tended to believe the worst is yet to come. We have always been looking over our shoulder to see how other people are doing and believing they are doing it better. They have it better. They are better. We have always lost people we love. We have always loved people anyway.
We have always had to walk through this world with vulnerable little bodies that are prone to breaking, and soft brains that are prone to breaking down. We have always had hearts, the most breakable thing of all.
What I know about pain and grief is this: it will not always feel this way.
That’s not to say that someday it won’t hurt at all, but just that it will hurt…differently.
It will not always feel like you’ve swallowed a carving knife.
It will not always feel like you’re trapped behind a pane of glass, watching the world go by.
Some days it will feel worse.
Sorry! That was the wrong thing to say for this podcast! But it will. Some days it will feel worse.
And some days it will feel lighter, less hot to the touch. Some days that pain will be more of a friendly ache.
Right now, it feels how it feels. And if it feels like it is just you…look up. Look around. Peek out of your window until you see another human being go by. That friend you’re next to right now. That stranger just passing by. The most annoying person you’ve ever met in your entire life??? Even they know what it’s like to hurt.
It is not…it has never been…never will be…just you.
OUTRO MUSIC
CREDITS
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The Hartford is a leading insurance provider that’s connecting people and technology for better employee benefits.
Learn more at www.thehartford.com/benefits.
Have a story you want to share?
Share your OK thing at 502-388-6529 or by emailing a note or voice memo to [email protected].
Start your message with:
"I’m (name) and it’s going to be okay."
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